Confessions Of A Coach.
I’m going to bring you on a journey. It’s possible that you’ve been on this journey too. And if you have – I hear you, see you and know exactly how you feel.
Six years ago I suffered my first mental breakdown.
I was standing in the middle of a store staring blankly at a half-finished wall of clothing. At the time, I had a high-stress corporate fashion job while balancing entrepreneurship. Things had been a mess for a while, but I ignored all the signs and put my head down to power through. I felt like I was being buried alive in the sheer overwhelmingness of it all. Sound familiar?
The crushing weight of single-handedly doing a job meant for three people was too much.
So here I am, staring at this wall.
I had the sense to know something was terribly wrong.
Here’s what I concluded from my mental breakdown.
- You’re number one in any scenario – so don’t let people manipulate you into thinking otherwise.
- Don’t EVER do something your heart, body and soul doesn’t want to do.
- Sometimes you have to break character to save yourself. Don’t feel bad about it; just figure out how to do it better next time.
- If your body is showing you negative signs, that means you’ve already ignored your mind. You need to backtrack and collect your thoughts.
- Audit your mental health and physical wellbeing on the regular. You must know where you’re at in these two categories for optimal balance.
- Do at least one thing a day that makes you super jazzed. Without this, you’re just a number, a robot, a person who has no spice.
- Don’t sacrifice your mental health for money. You will never win, and you will always end up in a place of self-hate.
- Lead with your heart. It’s so cliche, but it’s also very necessary. Most people lead with their minds. Try doing the opposite once in a while.
- Let it out. Cry, scream, smash things, go for a super fast run – do anything that makes you FEEL. You need to feel it to make it real
- Talk to someone about it. We must all get better at speaking our truths. Because I bet you in a room full of ten people, at least one of them knows exactly how you feel.